Monday, May 19, 2008

Deja Vu all over again

Well I was trying to figure out a title for tonight’s blog and thought of “This and That” and then I realized I had already used it, so it would be like “Déjà vu all over again”. So that’s where the post title came from.

The only thing I have to add about the apartment is the chimes that I bought at Scarborough Faire. I tried to take a picture of them the day that I shot the patio, but they didn’t show up at all against the cloudy sky, so I had to wait until a sunny day. Even then, they still don’t show up well unless you click and enlarge the picture. The colors aren’t right – I don’t know why the camera isn’t displaying them right. They are leaves and they are a rusty color and a light green. Very pretty and the sound they make is beautiful.

Oh, wait, I do have this wall between the bedroom and bathroom. This is my tribute to dad. And yes, that is a real December 8, 1941 newspaper in that frame.

I had a bit of disconcerting news this weekend. My Aunt Alice was in the hospital. It seems she’ll be okay, but it still scared me. Mom was the first on her side to pass away, and the first death since her mother died in 1980. We’ve been very lucky there. In my lifetime we’ve lost my grandparents and an aunt-in-law, uncle-in-law, and then mom. That’s it. On dad’s side there’s the grandparents, dad, two of his brothers, three of his sisters, and six in-laws. Plus two cousins. So you see how unnerved I became to have first my mother’s brother in the hospital a couple of weeks ago, my aunt, and then to find out today that the oldest was in the hospital too. Confused yet? Anyway, they’re all getting up there and it’s only a matter of time before mom’s side begins to drop, for loss of another way to phrase it. It was the elders that have kept the family together, and as they die, or move away, it’s like we’re all “breaking” up. We no longer have family get-togethers like we did when I was growing up. We probably never will. Dad had 2 brothers and 1 sister living here when he died. Now one of the brothers has moved back to Iowa to live with his daughter, and his sister is moving to Alaska to live with her daughter. That just leaves my Uncle Kenny, and he doesn’t live in town – I haven’t seen him since 2006. In fact, I’ve hardly seen any of my extended family since mother died. And except for my Aunt Alice and one cousin, mother’s family doesn’t live here. I guess I’m just feeling a bit nostalgic this weekend. You see, I woke up Sunday morning with the realization that it was Howard’s birthday. It wasn’t anything I thought about, I just knew when I woke up without thinking about the date. Happy Birthday Howard. He would have been 56. Bebo and I talked about him for a little bit today. The date hadn’t gotten past her either. I saw my niece in March, which was the first time I’d seen her since 2006. And my nephews? Haven’t seen them since mom died either. It doesn’t bother me unless a holiday is coming up. And next weekend is Memorial Day. We got together every Memorial Day to celebrate both Howard’s and my dad’s birthdays (May 31). And now it’s just another day. They’re all pretty much just another day.

Egads, I’m so morose. Excuse me. Let’s end this with something funny, okay?

But do they bloom??? I wonder if they come in different colors? I wonder about the fragrance?I wonder if it would help to put those preservative packets in the water? I wonder if they bloom?I wonder whether they would look better on the kitchen table or in the entry? I wonder if they're cheaper by the dozen?I wonder if they come in long-stemmed?

Captured at 115th and Allisonville Rd. in Fishers (Indianapolis). The sign is real and was up for two hours before someone stopped and told them how to spell PE O NI ES


Shelley Munro said...

Bailey, the wind chimes are lovely. I've never seen any like that before.

bebo said...

Wow the pics really don't do the chimes justice at all. Wonder why?

And sorry that I'll be leaving you too at Memorial Day. And you're right... it's always "just another day" anymore.

Melissa said...

That is too funny that someone had to stop and tell them about the sign. Bet that livened up the conversations in the cars passing by it until the fixed the spelling!

Dru said...

LOL at the sign.

Brandy said...

I think your wind chimes are gorgeous, and special.
Families tend to drift apart these days. I wish I knew why.

The sign is hilarious! How can a florist not know how to spell peonies?


Susan said...

Bailey, those wind chimes are gorgeous!

You are right about family moving away and Memorial Day just becoming another day. :(

I wonder how many penis were order.

glenice said...

wow they don't look anything like that...they are such a pretty patella (sp?)

sorry you will be alone...

families are just way to spread out closest sister is 60 miles away...and mom is 450 miles away...well for a couple more weeks anyway...

OHHHH How is your sister doing by the way...she has been on my mind for the last couple of days.

catslady said...

My daughter was in for th weekend so I'm really behind and tired.

Love the chimes. And the sign is hysterical.

My mom is going to be 86 and once she passes there's not going to be a lot holding our family together. I have one sister who has "her own" family and if it wasn't for the fact that her two kids include me sometimes, I'd never see anyone. I married an only child so only one uncle left on his side.