Thursday, October 12, 2006

Thursday Update

Mom took a turn yesterday. Her heartbeat is now irregular and she has a fever. The fever is not from fighting an infection, but rather a part of the dying process. She had to have a little oxygen and they have now brought in a suction machine. She can no longer cough up any mucus that builds up in her throat. From what I understand this can indicate hours or days until the end.

28 comments:

Meretta said...

When my Granddad was ill (cancer) this is what was happening the day before he died. Eve and Bebo, my heart goes to you both. May your mom's last moments be as peaceful as possible.

Bernita said...

A death watch is one of the grimest things one can go through.

Carol said...

I also home your mom goes peacefully. That's all you can ask for at this point. Big hugs to you both, Eve and Bebo.

Susan said...

Eve and Bebo, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Big hugs sent your way.

Bailey Stewart said...

I forgot to mention the spooky, weird, whatever thing about this week. My father passed away October 11, 2000. I don't know if you believe in this stuff or not, but we have had a few weird things happen in the last few days, one - we have a WWII memorial type montage on one wall with dad's flag, a big framed newspaper from December 8, 1941, pictures of dad in uniform and a picture of his tombstone at the veteran's cemetary. The picture of the tombstone fell off of the wall either Monday or Tuesday and nobody was touching it. Add that to the fact that mom and dad will have the same tombstone (her info on the backside) and that they will have to remove it to add her, makes that double spooky.

Tori Lennox said...

*hugs* sweetie. I'm thinking of you and yours.

Dennie McDonald said...

(((EVE) you and Bebo stay in my thoughts and prayers!

and that is uber-creepy about the pic on the wall... weird!

Glenice said...

just checking in...

I am so sorry! you know you are all in my thoughts and prayers!!!!

I am still trying to find a flight with my miles...can not find anything that is less than 10 hours...CRAZY!!! I will let you know as soon as I can find something...

Lis said...

Hugs to you all. Your in my thoughts and prayers.

You know me, I believe in all that stuff. Probably a sign to show that they're around you all right now.

Brandy said...

Still praying for you. Daughter is too. I know what it's like, the last bits of life slipping away. But, she is going toward her peace. You are right about the picture falling, that is a little odd. But, somehow fitting. Hugs, prayers and love being sent to you!

ruby55 said...

When they had to do this for my mother, the nurse told me that she would die that day. She was already in a coma and I had seen her up in her wheelchair only the day before. It was Sunday morning when we were told the dire news though she hung on until Thursday evening.

I'm so sorry that you will be going through such tough hours and maybe days for the next little while. We will be with you in spirit, thoughts and prayers. I know that in a certain sense it will definitely be a relief and release for Mary. And I know it was a relief for us as well. I know my mother and yours would have spared you all this if they'd been able to.

Above all, I wish all of you the peace that passes all understanding. You have definitely done your best for her. When my one sister-in-law's father passed away last year, he even asked for a party--but he wasn't suffering from Alzheimer's. And celebrating with him, made it much easier for all of them.

Think of the good times, sing to her if you can or play some of her favorite music because I firmly believe they are still somehow able to grasp what is going on even with the Alzheimer's.

Big hugs, many prayers and love to you.

I can believe that strange things happen. Shortly before my father died at home, my mother woke one night and heard him call, "I'm coming." He never gave vent to his emotions either yet the day before he died he said to my mother: "Our kids turned out pretty good, didn't they?

Hope you don't mind if I shed a few tears too. But I'm also smiling. Death is just another part of life. I don't fear it at all.

But that with the tombstone is strange, isn't it? But it's nothing to fear.

Take heart, dear hearts.

Rene said...

I hope the end is peaceful for your mom. This has to be so difficult. That is strange about the tombstone picture. But maybe not, if you think about it.

Loreth Anne White said...

I believe in that 'spooky' stuff, Bailey -- seen it happen too often not to. Your dad will be waiting for her ... may she pass over peacefully to join him.

Lots of love to you all.

Loreth Anne White said...

Oh ... just looked at the date. Friday the 13th tomorrow. Now for some people, that alone is kinda spooky.

Joely Sue Burkhart said...

Hugs, Bailey and Bebo. I pray your mother goes peacefully and gently.

Fannie said...

My prayers for a peaceful passing. She is just stepping into the next room. Angels are waiting to take her on the next step of her journey. I know you will miss her, but God will grant you strength to get through this time of sorrow. You and your family will stay in my prayers. You have a lot of friends to help and we are all just waiting to find out what you need from us. God bless and Hugs. BTW, there really isn't anything wierd about the picture falling. I have experienced things like that numerous times.

Lexi said...

I'm trying to think of something to say and all I can come up with is hang in there.

Diane said...

I suppose this is giving you extra time to prepare, even if your hours are filled perfectly well. Email me the minute you feel able to let me have news. I'll get an alert sent to my mobile phone so I can be there for you when/if you need me to be.

Scott said...

I pray for a merciful ending. A little late for that I think, as this has been going on for so long, draining you and your family. Your poor mother has been so badly treated by this horrible disease. You would think by now, with all the technology that we could get a handle on this. In some ways we are no more advanced than we were in ancient times.

And yeah, that is a bit spooky...

Toni Anderson said...

Eve, I am so sorry. I hope she is resting easily now.

Devon Ellington said...

Thinking of you. Love to you.

Meretta said...

I believe in that kind of thing completely! I find it comforting.

Shirley said...

Thinking of you all. I do hope your mom's last moments are peaceful.

That is spooky about the picture, but I believe it means your dad's waiting for her.

glenice said...

Eve and Bebo--I am praying you both are hanging in there...I am a little concerned that we don't have a blog update today yet...

love you both!!

Jordan Summers said...

The poltergeist activity is normal at times like these. Pictures actually floated off the wall and half way across the room a couple of months before my Grandma died. I was at her side when she passed. These things are never pleasant. Hang in there. (((Hugs)))

Marty said...

May her passing be peaceful. Am thinking of you and yours

junebee said...

Hope her passing is peaceful and painless.

Siobhan said...

I am praying for you and your mom, Eve. Let her find the peace she needs. Much love to you and Bebo.