Wednesday, October 11, 2006

Wednesday Update

First off - thanks for all of yesterday laughs, we had a lot of giggles.

Not a lot to report. Mom was peaceful for a majority of the day yesterday - the meds keeping her calm. Then towards evening she experienced what is referred to as "sundowners" - Alzheimer's patients become more agitated in the evening, so she needed extra meds. She did take a couple of sips of water, but that is it - nothing since Sunday. We are now waiting for the nurse to arrive because we have a lot of questions that need answering. Other than that, just a bit of business (getting the Will out of the safety deposit box, finding insurance policies to take to funeral home, etc.) that has to be done. I also have to do an obituary - I have had two experiences with this: 1) my father passed away in hospice and we had the obit written up ahead of time with slots for date of death, viewing, funeral, etc. We were able to put everything we wanted to say, express our love, etc. 2) when my brother Howard passed it was sudden, so we had to write the obit while struggling with shock and grief. We ended up inadvertently leaving stuff out, not phrasing things the way we would have liked, etc. Based on those two situations, we've decided that getting it done now was the better way to go.

Like I said, not a lot to report.


On a totally different subject:
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13 comments:

Meretta said...

Hugs to you and Bebo and your mom as well. I'm thinking about you all.

And thanks for sharing my news!

Melissa Marsh said...

Stay strong, Eve. You're still in my prayers. :)

Lis said...

More hugs to you all.

Off to check out Meretta's interview

Toni Anderson said...

It would be good to write it now. Maybe it'll help remind you of your mother's good times.

catslady said...

Is having time to prepare and slowly grieve any easier than the shock of a sudden death. Of course since she is having such a bad time of it, it must be agonizing too. I hope you and your mom were able to talk about things before she got too bad. {{{many hugs}}}

Brandy said...

I wish things were different for you all. I am sending hugs your way and your idea of pre-writing the obituary is a good one. Wish I had thugh of that when my Mom passed.

Sasha White said...

Just want to give you a Hug. :)

*HUG*

Marty said...

Thank you for giving updates...you don't have to, of course, but I'm always glad to *see* you. Take good care,
M

Deana said...

Thinking about you....

Loreth Anne White said...

I can totally understand your decision, Bailey. And I second what Toni said -- doing it this way may help to bring some of the good and the happier times to mind during this difficult period. It makes things sad, too ... but a sweeter sort of sad.

(((Hugs))))

ruby55 said...

Unless you're somebody really special and want to be mentioned in a real newspaper article, the Funeral Home where you have the body taken, takes care of the obit. It's more a form in which they ask you what you want to put in and whom you want to mention. I actually found my mother's just a few months ago in the obit archives on the Internet. We tried to be a little more personal when we wrote a thank you note to non-family most involved.

Eventually, each of us is supposed to get a video of both the funeral and the memorial service. Since that is a part of my brother's business, it was very easy to get done but it's now taken over 2 years and all we have are some stills of the funeral, especially what we wrote on the casket as "messages" for her. Apparently, that is done quite often out west but it is the first time we had heard of it. Our pastor suggested it and it was really the most moving part of the ceremony.

However, I don't want you to dwell on that yet. But my prayers and thoughts will continue to be with you. I've also asked friends to pray. I would like all three of you to feel surrounded by love from all of us here on the blog.

I'll just give you one of my favorite Bible verses which the kids once gave me and which I even hung up on the wall where I worked: "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."

I want peace with God, peace within myself, peace with those around me and in my family and I want peace in the world. And I want peace for you two, your mom and the rest of your family.

Shirley said...

Hugs to you and Bebo, and your mom of course. Thinking of you all.

Devon Ellington said...

Love to you and your family.