Well, she's not exactly gone yet. The A/C compressor at her new apartment quit today - and they can't fix it until Monday. Soooooo, Bebo is here two more nights, but she can't be here on Sunday. She's allergic to the enamel Susie and I will be using for the trimming so she has to find other arrangements. But, I'm going to go ahead and list the things I will miss when she's gone (and I know its only 9 miles away - but its not down the hall).
1) Late night talks, Sunday morning conversations.
2) Her laughter coming down the hall when she watches something funny in her room.
3) Security- mother is entering another phase now with the Alzheimer's and I'm just a little nervous about being here alone - she's getting up in the middle of the night. The first night neither one of us heard her.
4) Instant feedback - well not exactly instant, but with her not living here I have to wait a few days until she comes over to show her what I've written, while now I just have to wait for her to get home. I know, I can email it - but it's not just the same.
5) I'd gotten used to her setting up the coffee pot before going to bed. Now I'm going to have to remember to do it.
6) Fetch it - you know, can you pick up a loaf of bread on your way home?
7) Alcohol. I know, she's still going to bring me some - but now I have to wait until the weekend.
8) Strength in numbers. This kind of goes with number 3, but it was nice to have someone to share the burden, not just for the new phase, but all of the phases.
9) Gossip.
10) Laughter. Period.
Bye, Beverly (yes, she has a real name). You've been a swell roomie. I love ya sis.
Now that we've gotten the serious stuff out of the way, wanna know what truly insane people do on a Thursday morning? Go to Vanessa Jaye's blog. I will only admit to Snow White, the Sheik and CSI. I did not, however, provide the names of the dwarves, but these three are the only ones that I'm owning up to.
And don't forget that as of this afternoon I'm off-line until Monday or Tuesday. Try to behave yourselves while I'm gone.
21 comments:
No Eve? For an entire weekend? Oh, no. Withdrawal is starting already!! I know you're going to miss Bebo. I bet she's going to miss you too. Good luck painting.
I agree, No Eve? How will I know how the Avatar is dressed for the day????
Sorry I've not been by before your weekend off, but it's been a busy week and I got that rotten migraine.
Good luck to Bebo for the move, and good luck with the painting. I'm glad I'm not doing that with my current head.
Hey sis, you've been a swell roomie too. And yes it's only a short jog down the frwy, but it's not down the hall. Here's what I will miss.
1. Conversation with someone I live with (middle of the night or no.) Okay, let's clarify that: Non-schizophrenic-conversation. There's a real difference there & I know you know what I mean.
2. Gossip
3. Instant feedback is a good one. It goes for writing stuff, but also goes with #1.
4. "Do this". So easy to call from work & say "can you go look at this..." or "leave me a big-ole note to do this..."
5. Dinner. I think I got used to coming home & dinner is already made & I didn't have to cook (although I love to cook).
6. Strength in numbers in dealing w/ Mom. I'm concerned about the new & old phases & y'all being here on your own, too. But this really needs to be done, and you know I'm only a phone call away.
And yes, I'll bring alcohol for you. Lord knows you can use all the help you can get.
Brandy - I'm going to check stuff when I get home from work, so it won't be a total withdrawal.
Ahhhh, Sandy. Poor thing.
Diane - I hope the migraine gets better.
Bebo - ALCOHOL!
Oh and I don't know who I'll be working with today - if its the boss, then I won't be able to check this at work.
Eve--have fun!!! Bebo..have more fun :)
Eve, we'll miss you this weekend!!!
Bebo, happy moving!!! :)
Hallelujah - I'm with my Thursday night co-worker. All's well in the work place.
I'm sure it is a big adjustment getting used to living with someone and then they move out. It changes your routine as well. Not only that, but you just plain miss them.
About your mom, sorry if this is out of line but have you considered getting a baby monitor? I hear everything that goes on in my little girls room. I know if she gets out of bed, even if it is in the middle of the night. I hope this helps.
Kelley - all suggestions welcome. We tried the monitors once - kept picking up cell phone calls.
But the major problem now is that she has begun getting up in the middle of the night and I'm afraid I won't hear her. We're working on the lock thing, but just don't have the money to do a lot.
You were lucky to have such a great roomie! As for the night worries, trust me, I know how you feel. I'm always afraid something might happen while I'm asleep. I kinda trained myself to wake up several times a night and check. Tonight I checked just in time... Hugs, Eve, and my best wishes to you and Bebo.
As much as room mates (husbands included) can be annoying, I would miss just having someone there too.
Hope your back is better and up to all that painting.
Yikes! No Eve all weekend? What am I going to do when I need a laugh?
Good luck with your painting and lack of alcohol. ;)
Bebo - Wishing you good luck with your new apartment!
Eve, WallyWorld has alarms you can install yourself on your doors (tell when they've been opened) and windows (tell when lifted). Tey are inexpensive and really easy to put in place. We used them when we first moved back here and we rented a house in a (not known to us) neighborhood on the edge. Hope the suggestion helps.
Olga - hope everything is okay there.
Jeanne - it has to be done whether I'm up to it or not. Sheesh - I hate painting.
Susan - I don't know. What am I going to do without my blogging. I wasn't even able to get to it today (well, except for Jill), so no blogging until Monday or Tuesday either. I'm going to go stir crazy.
Brandy - That's a good idea. I might try that.
Well, this is it folks. Take care.
Remember to lift with your legs and not your back!
Hugs to the both of you and best of luck with the new directions your lives are taking!
Though you listed some negatives a few days ago, the positives of Bebo's stay with you far outweigh the negatives. Sometimes I really miss having someone to talk to and, in your case (as mine once was) share "mothering".
At least she's only a phone call away. I always have to call long distance when I need to talk to someone caring and intelligibly.
I see Bebo feels the same way. I always wanted to move out of my parents' home after my return from Germany. Before my father died, I didn't have the funds and after he died, my mother wanted to stay in the house but not alone. It made for some problems but on the whole it didn't go too badly. I was a child again who was not always pleased to be treated like one. My mother thought she could constantly talk to me even just after I got out of bed. I'm not a talker nor an "early-morning" person so that made for a lot of strife. But it worked fairly well.
But forget about confidences: Any I told her would be served up at the next family gathering as an amusing anecdote. As my one nephew said to her when he was about 4 or 5, "Oma, why do you talk so much?"
And of course, hugs and prayers go to you both as face new challenges. I'm so sorry to hear that you now have to worry about your mother's getting up in the middle of the night and perhaps going wandering.
Can she still open the outside door and turn on lights? What is the biggest problem you face in her getting up at night?
Thank you Meretta - yes legs, no back.
Ruby - right now, nothing really - we just know this is the beginning where she will forget that this is her house and try to leave to go home, or something like that. But even though that's not happening now, we need to make sure she's safe before it happens. Right now, it's just the uncertainty of "just what is it that she's doing."
Oh I remember when Grandma hit that phase...we actually lost her a couple of times...she would get up and go outside. I guess the good thing was she could not figure out how to open the gate.
I know it is so hard to watch her go through all this...you most certainly have my prayers!!!
Hope the A/C got fixed today!!!
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