y brings home those feelings of mortality. Today is her funeral, but I won't be going. It just isn't the right day for a funeral - not that there's any good days. But you see, Howard would have been 54 today. For those of you who have joined the blog recently, Howard was my brother who passed away last September. He was Bebo's husband and I know that today will be hard for her, since its his first birthday since he died. So I think you can understand how a funeral wouldn't be the place I would want to be today. And yes, that's Howard.On another note - Jo Leigh really needs your help. She's writing a book with a character that has lost a hand and she needs to talk to someone who has had that experience (or even an arm). I know which character she is talking about and I'm really looking forward to this book, so you'll be helping me too. If you know someone who fits this criteria who would be willing to talk to her, please let her know. Information on her blog.
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*hugs* Not much to say, just hope the day goes as easy for you and Bebo as possible
Oh, my heart goes out to you and Bebo!
((hugs)) and more ((hugs))
That was an adorable pic of Howard. your post title, "melancholy" is so accurate. Bittersweet feelings in remembering the fond and fun past when you view pictures of him like the one you posted.
May your heart be hugged by the love of his memory.
Thanks Lis.
Michele - I'll give Bebo your hug.
And the day just gets better. My monitor has quit. I'm on Bebo's computer right now, but I can't stay on here for long. We have to keep the door closed because of her cats and this room heats up (badly) with the computer on. So I'll get a little blogging done, but I also need to get some administration (banking, etc) stuff done in case we can't get this fixed. Bebo has an old monitor in storage (which should work with this computer - but with my luck lately?) that we're going to try. I also have to find my warranty and see if the monitor is covered. If not, well I can't afford even a cheap used one - so if her's doesn't work I could be off-line forever. And no writing because the arthritis won't allow longhand, remember. I don't know what I'll do without my computer, my friends, etc. I really needed this today.
Okay - just discovered another problem. If your blog involves the pop-up window, well Bebo's security won't allow it and I can't disturb her at work. So if you don't hear from my today - that's why. I just hope I can do my banking?
Thanks for all the hugs, everyone. It's just a melancholy bittersweet time right now. Painfully missing him, and at the same time excitedly looking forward to the new apt & the move that starts tomorrow. And hopefully the monitor I have in storage will work for Eve. It should... but one never knows.
Time to get my nose back to the grindstone now.
Peggy - thank you. Yes, September.
Bebo - I hate your pop-up blocker!
Okay - I've discovered that some pop-up comment windows will work and others won't. So still, if you have a pop-up comment window and don't hear from me today it's because I couldn't get to it.
May your memories bring you comfort and keep Howard close in your hearts.
Sending big hugs to both you and Bebo.
A hard day for you and Bebo. Nice to remember the good times and hard because you miss him.
((())) on your highschool friend. I have a bunch of young men I went to school with who have died. One in a car accident and 3 suicides. Tragic waste of life. I guess when we are older we just feel our mortality more. I'm pressing DH to go for a physical. Just because :/
Thank you Susan.
Toni - I hear you. This is only the third (that I've heard of) the first being from an illness she had all her life, the other a car accident only a few years from graduation (which was in 1979 for those who are wondering).
I love this keyboard. :)
*hugs* to you and Bebo. That's a darling picture.
He was a precocious (sp?) child. Thanks for the hugs Tori.
Hugs!! I know how hard this must be and I understand not going to the funeral. I hope you are blessed with many nice memories of your brother today.
Kelley - thank you, I am surprisingly enough. Mother, of course, is oblivious.
Sorry about the news Eve, and I hope Bebo is ok. I always honor my mother's birthday by calling her mother (grandma) to reminisce.
Nice of you to help your friend do research.
Thanks Scott.
Okay, a few more blogs to do. I got the banking done and tomorrow's spamarama is written and saved as a draft. So all I have to do tonight is come home and post it.
I'll try to check in before work. Ya'll have a nice day.
Thank you Loreth.
I know people are probably thinking "what could be a problem with an older monitor?" Ummm, hooking up dealies (so, I'm not technical) - they might be compatible with the newer slots. So please - keep your fingers crossed.
Lots of hugs, Eve and Bebo. Keep smiling. :-)
Thanks Melissa.
And that should be "not compatible"
Sorry about the hard day and losses, Eve. :(
On a brighter note, what a spunky picture! I bet he was a good guy.
(((Hugs))) to you and Bebo. Hope the day is as easy as possible for you both.
What a lovely picture. I hope it helps with the happy memories.
(((hugs))) for you both!!!!
Sending you strength and (((hugs))). Let your memories carry you.
Hugs to you and especially Bebo.
Hugs to both of you!!!!!
Her monitor will work :)
!!!!!!!THINK POSITIVE!!!!!!!
Have fun at work tonight! I think I may need to go to my bookstore and browse :) pretend it is yours :)
oh and just turn off her blocker...she can turn it back off later :) :) :) hee hee
Awww, Eve, pounded by upset today. Just remember the happy times, not dwell on the unhappy ones. Howard looks like he was quite a character. Must run in the family, *g*. *Hugs* to you and Bebo today. Hope the monitor works!
(((Eve & Bebo)))
That your mother is oblivious may just be a blessing in disguise.
Happy thoughts and much love being sent your way.
My condolence to both of you {hugs}
Yesterday my husband just heard news that his closest friend from his past also passed away at 57. They had lost touch as men tend to do. His mother gave us the sad news.
Good luck with the monitor!
Eve, I'd like to interject a little "UP" moment.
I GOT THE BOOK YOU SENT AND IT SOUNDS GREAT!!!!
I knew leaving it to your choice was wise - the storyline looks fab.
THANK YOU , THANK YOU , THANK YOU!!
Jason - he would give someone the shirt off of his back - and probably did a few times.
Shirley - it does.
Dennie - thanks hon.
Meretta and Joely - thanks.
Glenice - I don't know where to turn it off at.
Brandy - I hope it does too and Thank you.
Susie - see you tonight.
Jeanne - condolences to your husband too.
Michele - you're welcome. Have fun.
Off to work people.
Ah, loved the pic of your brother. Hugs to you and Bebo.
Eve, so sorry to hear about your brother and school friend. My thoughts are with you and Bebo. =)
Eve, I didn't know you had lost your brother so recently! Hugs to both you and Bebo.
And hope you get your monitor up and running again.
Hugs and prayers to all three of you. Does your mom realize any of it?
Yes, those birthdays are hard. But I love that picture of him. I can almost hear him say, "Stick 'em up." I'm trying to remember if he was eldest in the family.
One of my high school classmates died recently. I knew him for only 4 years and he was not really a friend in that sense, but a nice guy. It's hard when people you grew up with pass away.
Talking about luck with a computer: I'm still lookin (a bit) for my lost 15-page questionnaire. Have to finish the census soon too. And my new 3-in-1 printer is just a 2-in-1 since it won't scan. But doing without a monitor is much worse. Hope you find a usable one soon.
More hugs and prayers for arthritis and everything else. I'm pretty well in the same boat for writing.
Yep, spelled right. You're doing well, kiddo.
kelly - Thank you.
Sandy - Thanks. We're keeping our fingers crossed on the monitor.
Ruby - No, we haven't even discussed it with mother. Thought it was best to keep her oblivious. Howard was the second to the eldest. Cathie is the oldest, then Howard, David and me. Hope you can find that questionaire. Bebo and I say Thank you.
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